Special Tantric Techniques
Force, as it is said in most TANTRIC texts, comes out from deep knowledge, which, in turn, proceeds from direct experience. Therefore, it is necessary to begin with the most straightforward techniques and then go on gradually to the most intricate ones.
Some training techniques appear very simple initially, but they should not be passed over superficially. Each part presented here should be performed precisely as described, in all details, even if some may appear unnecessary or even not entirely "logical".
The rhythm of a person's evolution largely depends on the ardour and perseverance in the training. Thus, some will reach faster the supreme capacity of transmuting their erotic energy entirely in psychomental force, thus reaching only states of consciousness, extraordinary capacities (SIDDHI-s), and many improved accomplishments in daily life.
The techniques are of two kinds:
- Individual techniques
- Techniques for couples
The individual techniques address beginners when alone. However, they should not be deemed as being themselves a goal, serving only as instruments for reaching specific accomplishments; therefore, as soon as proficiency in their practice is achieved, they may and shall be abandoned in favour of the superior techniques for couples.
However, first one must reach a certain mastery in their performance, as it has been said. The above-mentioned specification has several reasons,.out of which one of the most important is that the so-called individual practices have common points with the process of masturbation, which is nowadays so widespread in the West (to the point of vast abuse).
Although modern society teaches youngsters "masturbation techniques" and their presumable advantages, the age-old Tantric Tradition does not share the same view. There are, besides the loss of energy brought about by ejaculation or explosive orgasm, a lot of other factors indicate masturbation as a harmful habit. Still, the discussion of these factors is too extensive for the possibilities of a beginners' course.
Suffice it to say that it may create phenomena of partial autism, or isolation from reality, develops certain forms of egoism, and a certain artificiality of behaviour. As anyone can note by the practice of these techniques, there is a significant difference between the lone sexual training, and the outer reality - the "world" - the communion between two lovers in an effervescent sexual play.
Tantra Vs Sexuality
Tantra has been the target of many misconceptions in the last century. Imported from India into the Western world, it was pretty challenging to be presented in it's true spirit because of the cultural differences and its somehow confusing exterior aspects.
Many believe that Tantra has to do with group sex and magic; to many, Tantra represents just another weird sexual practice and nothing more.
In fact, they couldn't be further from the truth and have no idea what they are missing. Some Tantric practices indeed involve sex but sex is not an object of Tantra and not its finality. In fact, in Tantra, love is much more important than sex and sex without love has nothing to do with it's ways.
An ancient Tantric maxim says, "What made many others to fall because of their lack of self control, in turn makes the Tantric advance on his spiritual path. What is for some people a vice, the Tantric can turn into a virtue".
Many religions banished sex because they considered it is impure and incompatible with the pursuit of spiritual life. On the other hand, Tantra takes a different, more nuanced position here: it says that uncontrolled sex is a cause of decay, BUT the use of sexuality in a controlled manner, by the golden rule of SEXUAL CONTINENCE, is a cause for significant spiritual progress.
Yes, not any kind of sexuality is damaging for spiritual evolution, only sex followed by ejaculation and respectively explosive discharge in the case of women. This is a radical attitude because it turns sex from an enemy of spiritual life into a friend. Instead of running from it, Tantra embraces it.
As you know, by seeing sex as impure many religions created unnecessary tension. Sex is a natural instinct, it is a basic need of any human being; the role of sex and Tantra is to remedy this situation by showing how both sexuality and spirituality can coexist and enhance one another.
In Tantra, the sexual potential (i.e. sperm and sexual secretions) is considered the source of vast energy. This energy is clearly perceived by anyone when he/she is sexually aroused, this is the sensation of sexual pleasure. The transformation of this sexual potential in energy is called transmutation.
When the transmutation of sexual fluids takes place, the matter is converted into energy. We all know that all matter is energy (Einstein said that E=mc^2, remember ?). A considerable amount of energy is compressed in each atom, each electron and photon - but Tantra says that humans can tap into this great source at will if they follow a correct and constant practice.
The practice of sexual continence is not that easy, but we all know that no valuable achievement in life is easy to come by. Tantra is a pleasure, but you still have to work for it, which is a demanding undertaking. The results are beyond any imagination.
Imagine a nuclear plant. In the reactors, the matter is converted into energy, transformers are used to convert this energy, and wires transport it to anywhere you need to use it. The exact process, analogically, happens in the human body. The SEXUAL FLUIDS are the source, the so-called NADIS are the path of energy through the subtle body, and the destinations are the seven plans of the human being: vital, sexual, will-related, emotional, creative, mental and spiritual, as described by the yoga system.
When you practice SEXUAL CONTINENCE for at least a month, you will start perceiving significant positive effects in your body. Your health is improved, and your vitality is at its peak. You are full of a radiant force and have an excellent disposition. All your complexes and fears related to sexuality are banished, and you feel completely free. When having sex, you can make it last many hours without being exhausted.
After making love, you won't feel tired and drained of energy any more, but you will experience exactly the opposite - a great force. After having sex you will not be less affectionate to your lover, but you will feel a deep state of love that deepens with each Tantric sexual encounter.
Practising sexual continence will make your loved one very happy, even if she does not practice sexual continence herself (and this is true for both sexes). You will quickly find again the lost happiness that you had in the beginning of your relationship, and any feelings of boredom and loss of interest will disappear.
But the most significant advantage of sexual continence is the use of sexual energy to amplify your feelings of love, your mental power, your will, and ultimately, your spiritual force. This is why Tantra uses sexual energy instead of letting it be wasted, turning an obstacle into a great help.
Everybody wants to be happy - this is the ultimate wish of any human being, but problems appear when people try to define happiness. What is happiness for some is indifference or even suffering for others. Even if all seems relative, the spiritual paths found that some types of happiness are more enduring and profound than others. About sexuality, Tantra found that sexual continence is the way to achieve the most profound, most enduring happiness in a couple.
Tantra's relationship with sex is not one of sweet, comfortable abandon but of hard work, and the result is worth every effort.
Sensual Touches
The erotic touch and massage are vivid expressions of sensuality. Neither exceptional talent nor skill in human anatomy are essential, nor are complicated techniques compulsory.
A few simple elements are often sufficient: a peaceful and warm place - where we create a pleasant, intimate atmosphere and a small bottle of natural essential oil. And in this way, we can offer a more refined pleasure to our lover.
By sensual, full of love and gentle movements, you could caress your lover's entire body, slowly massaging it. Depending on the inspirations, you could alternate the total contact of the palms with slow and exciting touches of the fingertips.
You don't need an entire human anatomy course to let your hands sensually slip on the lover's naked body and to caress it in a transfiguring way. The erotic massage art comes from ancient times and springs from people's aspiration of offering more pleasure, love, happiness, tenderness and affection to their lovers.
Depending on the warmness and the gentleness of your touch, you can transmit to your lover, ineffably, all your affection felt in those moments for him (her). We have in mind to offer this feeling to her (him) in this delicious state; this situation could be something very new for both of us.
The unforgettable, subtle and full of effervescence intimacy will then enormously help us to enrich our love relation with unknown, sublime dimensions, enriching it by the freshness, spontaneity and love that come from our natural and simple gestures.
Such moments are always welcome because their purpose is not only the preparation of our intercourse but its enrichment with refinement, subtle sensuality and with the intimacy of our gestures and attitudes.
It isn't essential to be involved in a sexual relationship with that one you touch with affection. Sometimes shaking hands with a colleague you admire could make you experience all the emotions scale of virtual lovemaking.
The massages can differ each time depending on your feeling for the human being you are caressing. We experience the massage in a totally different way when we massage our friends, parents or colleagues. Since most ancient times, massage was also used therapeutically.
A LITTLE SECRET
As a simple and practical exercise that stimulates the imagination and makes us be more aware of the erotic force of the hands, we can do such a massage having in mind to offer pleasure to our lover by using only the hands, as they would be sexual organs.
NATURAL OILS AND FLOWER ESSENCES USED FOR MASSAGE
Even the Bible speaks about various rituals of oiling with natural oils. The old Jews often used vegetable oils for warm the skin of those having to be blessed.
In this sense, for an appreciable increase of the massage effect, we can use any natural oil except peanuts oil or corn oil. For example, coconut oil gives off an extraordinarily pleasant aroma, efficiently transporting us in an exotic imaginary landscape.
It is also essential that the oil applied on the skin do not be cold. For this reason, it is beneficial to warm it beforehand quickly.
But don't exaggerate because the oils are heated very quickly. By good warming, they can also modify the colour, consistency, and smell (some oils are losing their aroma and pleasant smell if they are too warmed).
If we don't have perfumed oils, we can add some drops of natural perfume essences or even fresh lemon juice in the basic oil.
THE AROMA OF TOUCH
First, oil the naked body to create this way that delicious state of new and cleanness, and then let your lover to feel the oils' aroma and to enter in a sublime state that is specific to that smell. After that, drop oil in the palm and then spread it all over the body with ample circular movements.
We will notice then that the skin of the human body is different from place to place; some parts are drier, others wetter. The driest parts need more oil and a more powerful massage of the respective zone. The surplus of oil will be wiped with a very soft towel.
THE PLEASURE ECHOES
Focusing your attention on your lover's reactions, you will feel more easily how she (he) feels the echoes of our caresses. In this way, we can find out what she (he) likes most and it is also beneficial to encourage him (her) to point always what he (she) likes most in the way we massage and caress him (her).
In such moments we can show to others what we like most. Obviously, we insist on the touches in a very erogenous zone for us. At his (her) turn, the other will show us (by groaning softly and by being melt of pleasure, or even by saying: "Ah, how much I like this") what arouses him (her).