Sexual Positions You Need To Try
How to Have More Fun Sex
If there's one thing that interests all of us, it's information about sex positions. The search term "sex positions" receives about 10,000 searches a day on Google and throws up about 3 million results.
If anything else, this proves how interested people are in learning about sexual techniques, whether they're in a long-term relationship or not.
And you know what? It's not hard to understand why: sex is one of the most fun things we can do with another human being, but at the same time, it is one of the things that we find most difficult, challenging, and sometimes embarrassing or even shameful.
Well, we're trying different sex techniques for fun!
We will show you loads of different sex positions, ones that you might not have seen or tried so far.
We have lots of sexual techniques, as well as guidance about what makes different sex techniques pleasurable for different people. Another difference between us and some of the sites you might have seen online is that we are all about making sex joyous and fun!
Many porn sites depict sexual relationships in quite a dark way, with the woman often looking like she's not having a great time at the end of the (usually) very well-endowed stud who's fucking her.
So we've made sure that all our positions pictures depict models enjoying themselves and respecting and liking each other. Our sexual techniques information is based on years of experience working with couples. We've employed a whole team of experienced sex experts to put the material on this site together for you.
So, whether you're looking for sexual techniques to help you start your sex life or whether you're looking for techniques to make your relationship more passionate, exciting, and fun, we can probably help you.
So if you're ready for an exciting ride, read on… we start with information about everybody's favourite sexual technique, man on top!
Man On Top Sexual Techniques
Man on top is the position in which we have more sex, more often than any other position, and so there must be some pretty powerful reasons why it's so pleasurable.
To start with, this is an excellent position for overcoming the difficulties associated with anorgasmia - the term for this in men being delayed ejaculation - the man's inability to "come" in a timely way - because the deep penetration and vigorous thrusting can help him to get a much greater level of stimulation.
Second, men like to dominate women during sex. Sure, they may not want to do that all the time, and they may like their woman to ride them every so often, but mostly men want to feel dominant during sex.
One way to get that feeling is to be on top during sex, imagining they're holding their partner down while thrusting deep into her body.
Equally, women want to be protected and loved, and they don't want to feel vulnerable during sex, and guess what? Many women say that man on top sex makes them feel safe and secure, and very often, this helps them to melt into their feelings of being loved by their partner.
And it makes sense that men find this position satisfying because Mother Nature wants nothing more than to have a man ejaculate quickly and deeply into his partner's pussy, so as to increase the chances of her getting pregnant.
The essential man on top position has the woman lying on her back with the man on top of her, taking at least some of his weight on his forearms or hands. Usually, his legs are positioned between his partner's, although they can sometimes be placed outside her legs.
In this position, the man can thrust deeply, and the further back woman takes her legs, the more deeply he can penetrate her. The truth here, of course, is that deeper penetration may well activate her G spot if she is highly aroused and cause her to orgasm more easily! The skillful nature of bringing a woman to orgasm is described in orgasms arts.
You see, the thing is that the man's penis or body does not stimulate her clitoris, and unless either he or she takes the trouble to ensure that it receives manual stimulation, she will not reach orgasm.
However, the coital alignment technique can remedy this problem by ensuring that a different coital technique can allow the man's body to stimulate the woman's clitoris with pressure during intercourse. With suitable rhythmic movements, she may well reach orgasm - even during intercourse. The coital alignment technique is challenging to master, but full instructions are provided on the link above.
You can see what we mean by this in a series of photographs below. The further back her legs, the more she presents herself to her partner's viewpoint - arousing? I should say so!
Sex and relationships
As you know, sexual confidence depends on men knowing all the sexual techniques that will allow them to bring a woman to orgasm successfully, give women pleasure during sex and intercourse, and make sex a success.
This alone will establish a much more intimate and wholehearted relationship.
And sometimes, relationships can be complex and challenging, and you may need help to understand why the intimacy of your relationship started to feel less intense.
So you could look at Text Your Ex Back, written by Michael Fiore, who has provided relationship advice over the years, and is responsible for programs such as Text Your Ex Back, Text Your Wife Into Bed, and Text The Romance Back.
Man On Top Revisited
The more the man supports himself above his partner's body, and the harder he thrusts, the more tension there will be in his body, and the more likely he is to ejaculate quickly. See below for an illustration of two sex postures that show this.
Faster ejaculation on the left, maybe? Compared to a slower approach to climax - probably - in the second picture, but in the third, the deeper penetration achieved with her legs back may speed things up even though he's not supporting his weight as much.
The deep penetration and muscular tension the guy feels from supporting his weight in the fourth picture will result in the fastest climax of all....
Combining this with deep penetration is possible in this position. You have a recipe for a man not lasting very long, but certainly having a powerful orgasm and ejaculating with great force in a very satisfying way… at least to him, if not his partner, though many women say how powerful they find it to watch their partner when he comes like this.
What's more, if the woman keeps her legs together and the man puts his legs outside hers, this naturally has the effect of tightening her vagina around his penis, making him come in no time.
Now while a tight vagina might be helpful if you happen to be the man who suffers from delayed or retarded ejaculation (it makes you come quicker), it's not really so great if you're an average man who tends to come within about two minutes of penetration.
So what are you going to do about this?
It's not hard to learn to slow your climax down and learn how to last longer in bed for men. Still, it does depend on choosing the proper sexual technique and on some other factors, like the tightness of your partner's vagina and the depth of penetration, as we've already mentioned.
** This condition is called delayed ejaculation.
Choose The Right Sex Position & Sexual Techniques
To Make Sex Last Longer!
First, you need to have as little muscle tension as possible to determine how much your partner can take.
Second, have her keep her legs wide apart so that her vagina is somewhat looser and doesn't grip her penis as tightly. That may mean that you don't get as much sensation, but there again, it may mean that you can thrust longer before you ejaculate.
Here you can see some ideas for variations of this position where she keeps her legs apart:
These images don't show positions where the man is relaxed - where he is putting his weight on his partner.
Now, of course, you may want the pleasure of tightness:
Third, cultivate a relaxed approach to lovemaking. If you want to prolong the time before you reach your orgasm, don't thrust hard and vigorously, but take a more relaxed approach to move in and out of your partner's vagina: try to adopt a sort of loose swinging movement of the buttocks.
It's hard to describe what we mean by this, but practice makes perfect, and when you hit on it, you'll know just what we mean. It's a more relaxed movement back and forth from the hips rather than deep thrusting from the pelvis.
In the first picture, the man has more opportunity for a relaxed movement than in the second one, where it looks like his only way of enjoying the rhythm of sex is to thrust from his pelvis.
And that will be highly enjoyable, but again, it may make him come too quickly. This approach may be a method of making love that satisfies you... or you may want to use some techniques which extend the duration of lovemaking.
You can also learn some simple breathing techniques and PC muscle control techniques that will allow you to last longer. One good way, however, is to reach the verge of ejaculation and then pull right out of your partner.
Suppose you wait until your arousal has dropped and then continue making love. In that case, you often find that you can continue for much longer as the urge to ejaculate is weakened when you get right to the edge of coming and then don't do so.
The photographs below show a series of positions in which the woman moves her legs up and over over the man's back while he maintains more or less the same position. Remember that the further back her legs go, the deeper the penetration, and therefore potentially, at least, the quicker you'll come.
There are many ways of enjoying lovemaking: fast and furious, slow and relaxed, and anything in-between.
It's also helpful to remember that these techniques become more and more arousing as the woman opens up her vulva to your view, and that's an additional source of arousal that will also probably help make you come quite quickly.
What Size Is It?
Now, we should mention the question of penis size here before we go any further. It's a sad fact that not all men are created equal. And, as you very well know, most men consider themselves to be below-average size when erect.
Unfortunately, there's a lot of truth in that because, by definition, half of all men are below-average size.
And that's one of the reasons we can't take this question too seriously: we know women don't view it as as necessary as most men, and yet we can't dismiss it either, just because cock size is so crucial to most men.
But here's the thing: a man can satisfy a woman whether his penis is 4 or 8 inches long; all he needs to know are the right techniques and tools.
For men, the question of penis size and sexual satisfaction is never about how women see this issue but how men see it.
If this applies to you, then you need to be adapting your sexual technique and use different sex positions according to how long your erect cock is.
There's not much you can do if you have a very thick penis except ask your partner to keep her legs wide apart, although she might like the sense of fullness.
If women prefer penis size, it seems to be for thickness rather than length, although if a woman's PC muscles are fit and active, she will most likely be able to feel any man inside her no matter how thin or thick his erection is.
The problem is that having a long penis isn't as much of a good thing as many men imagine it to be. It's pretty damn' painful for a woman if the man's thrusting hard and hits her cervix – or at least, it can be if she's not extremely aroused.
Men who have a long penis need to find a sex position in which they actually can't thrust to their full extent: if the sexual technique he's using allows the woman to keep her thighs together around the base of his shaft, then he does get the illusion of deep penetration, and it can feel very good to him because the whole of his penile shaft is being sexually stimulated.
As you'll have guessed, in man-on-top sex, where the woman has her legs back and up, and the man lies on top of her, there may be very deep penetration, so these may not be suitable for a well-endowed guy.
On the other hand, if you're a man with a small endowment, then the sexual positions that give you the opportunity for the deepest penetration can be the most fulfilling for both you and your partner, in which case you might benefit by asking your partner to move her legs back.
Other sexual techniques, which are variations of the man on top but which don't allow the man to achieve very deep penetration, are the ones where the man is kneeling - see these in the pictures below.
Unless you're very flexible, the positions below can be both satisfying and prevent too-deep penetration.
Orgasm During Intercourse? Does It Depend On Position?
Unless you're a man with any kind of delayed ejaculation (aka retarded ejaculation) problem, you'll certainly expect to reach orgasm and ejaculate during sexual intercourse each time you have sex, and certainly regardless of the sexual method position that you're enjoying.
But guys, we have some bad news! It just ain't the same for women.
Although there are many people around who would have you believe otherwise, very few women can reach orgasm during intercourse due to the thrusting of their partner alone.
We put this number at around one woman in 20. Indeed, more women can come if the woman or her partner stimulates her clitoris with a hand, finger or vibrator during sex. Still, most women don't reach orgasm during sex, regardless of the sexual position they are using.
However, a revolutionary program called Orgasm By Command by Lloyd Lester may well help you achieve orgasm in no time at all!
Now, it can be delightful for a couple to reach orgasm together, or more-or-less together, but it isn't that easy.
If a woman is very aroused when the man penetrates her, and if her clitoris is stimulated during sex, then you both have a chance of reaching orgasm in the same sort of timescale.
But one of the problems a man has is that as the woman he's making love gets more and more aroused, her arousal feeds back to him and increases his own arousal, making him likely to come even quicker than usual.
But there is a sexual technique with the man on top in which you don't have to stimulate the woman's clitoris and can help you enjoy the woman's orgasm while making love. This is a different position to normal, called the coital alignment technique.
The Coital Alignment Technique (CATs and Pussies)
Ah, the CAT! In all the years that we've been educating and informing people about sex, we've never seen a clear explanation of the CAT. Coital, by the way, is a technical word for "during coitus", meaning during sexual intercourse.
So we now take it upon ourselves, in keeping with our endless enthusiasm for informing people about the benefits and disadvantages of various sex positions, to provide one.
Here is the key: stimulating the woman's clitoris that can result in her orgasm while her partner is still inside her has nothing to do with hand play, finger movement, a sex toy, or a vibrator.
It's provided by the man's body pressing on her clitoris as the couple makes love. And here's how it's done: the area of the man's body that presses on his partner's clitoris is his Mons Pubis, the area just above where his erect penis emerges from his body. It's the area underneath his pubic hair.
To get this area of his body over his partner's clitoris, after the man has entered her, he has to shift his body upwards so that these two areas can press together.
And then, when he is sure that his pubis is over his partner's clitoris, he doesn't thrust....instead, the couple adopts a sort of rocking motion so that when he presses down, she partly gives way; and when she moves her pelvis so that her vulva moves up again, he gently rocks upwards as well.
It's hard to describe, and it's pretty hard to learn, but once you get the knack of it, it's easy to enjoy this very different movement during intercourse. As we said, it's not thrusting. It's rocking.