Sexual Confidence
A sexually confident woman is a bigger turn-on to a man than a woman who fears showing her body and feels unsure about herself.
The Sexually Confident Woman
A sexually confident woman knows what she wants and how to get it. She asks for it. A sexually confident woman is certainly a turn-on for any man because she has learned that she is already acceptable just as she is. She does not stand around waiting for compliments because she knows her true value does not depend on them. She also knows what an honour it is to grace her partner with her sexual favours knowing he will be happily satisfied. She is not afraid to try something new or educate herself about things she does not know yet.
A sexually satisfying relationship can give you a different perspective on many things. If you are not quite happy about how you look, don’t let that stand in your way. Take a long look at yourself, and notice the good things about yourself. Your partner finds something that attracted him or her to you in the first place, so focus on that.
Build your self-confidence now with a hypnosis session that helps you take control of situations and have faith in your abilities. Imagine yourself going up to someone's table in the hotel lobby, or anywhere, and asking if you may join him. See the look on his face when he smiles, looks up at you, and says, "Oh yes, please do join me. My pleasure!" You are well on your way to an invite for dinner tomorrow evening. Once you have improved your overall confidence, then sexual confidence comes a lot easier.
Think Sexy!
Sex starts in the brain. The most erotic foreplay is done with the eyes and the mind. When your mind is on sexual matters, your body cannot help but follow.
Think about what feels good to you and turns your brain on. Do you anticipate climbing into bed each night to snuggle up next to your partner and more? Do you look forward to seeing your partner after a long day? Do you like it when your partner smiles at you and winks an eye? Do you savour the memory of a wonderful night of lovemaking and allow that memory to make your blood flow? Or do you like it when he or she kisses you all over, especially in that certain spot?
Thinking about what you like is a way to start understanding what you like. If you cannot find the words to say, show them how, with your fingers, tongue, or whatever you like. Show them the right spot, and make them happy that they found it. You know which spot that is, don't you? It's the spot that makes you go, "Gee!" Your G~Spot.
If you have been thinking of a certain way or position to make love that thrills you and feels so good, think about it, and let your partner know what is on your mind. Ask for it.
Feel Sexy!
Have you ever noticed that if you think sexy, you feel sexy? And if you feel sexy, your partner will be much more attracted to you. Here is another hypnosis session for those that need a little help. Feel Attractive Now! You can change your perspective of yourself so that others will react and respond. Notice the difference the next time you feel sexy and look into your partner's eyes. You can see past their eyes into their soul and make the connection.
Sometimes we don't feel sexy because we are unsatisfied with how our body looks. We may have some features that, try as we may, we seem unable to change, like those stretch marks or that scar. If you do not want your partner to see those stretch marks across your belly, dress it up. A garter belt and thigh-high stockings with a tiny thong will give him some eye candy that he won’t mind sucking on. Include a pair of “_uck me heels” with a demi bra, and you are ready for action. I am sure he won’t even look at one stretch mark.
Be Sexy!
Think sexy, feel sexy, and you will be sexy. If you know you are good at something, like fellatio, take pride in it and express yourself. Let your partner know that you want him. Give him that look that says it all. Tell your partner that the reason why he gets such a good blowjob is because he deserves it. After all, if he takes care of you in the same fashion, doesn’t he deserve the same in return? Watch him light up, and always remember to return a good thing.
It is not what you look like that turns people on (although it certainly does help). It is the way you act. A confident person who knows who they are, feels good about themself and knows they deserve to be loved are the sexiest people alive. They have what it takes to be sexy--self-confidence--and so can you.
Communicate!
Communication should be at the top of your relationship priority list. Please never think your partner should already know what you want and need. Unless they are a mind reader, they will usually not know unless you communicate. Do not be afraid to ask for what you want and what feels good. Put it into words and say it. " I sure do like the way you kiss me." "Hmmm.....That feels good." "Do it like this." Not only will your partner have a better idea of how to please you, but it will increase your sexual confidence.
If you can communicate with your man or woman, you are one step ahead of those who can't or don't know how. Communication does not always speak with words. Sometimes there is that look that you give one another when just passing by. It says, "I know you are around, and I am thinking of you. You are next." Or, it says, "I can't wait until we put the kids to bed and can be alone together." It can send shivers down your spine and give you a glowy feeling. Communication belongs at the top of the list.
You can also use words, by all means, "Please do." this can go a long way towards opening up communication. It is one way to show your approval. It is wonderful to know that your partner likes what you are doing, and it certainly helps to know that you should continue to do so.
Walk Your Talk
You are learning to speak about what you want by paying attention to your words. By walking your talk, you indulge in an opportunity to show someone that you mean what you say and that you do not speak empty words, talk just for the sake of conversation, or to make an impression on someone. You can give your words a positive meaning, and by following through on them, help their concepts and principles aid you in your life.
If you tell your partner you will do something, follow through on your words. Never take your partner for granted and assume they won't mind. That is a sure way to get them to shrug off the next promise and say, "Yea, right." After a while, if you wonder why people do not listen to what you say, maybe it is because you do not follow through on your words.
Of course, some circumstances cannot be helped. Your partner should understand that. But we all need to understand that if we are going to walk our talk, we have to put the effort forward to do so, whether it be a phone call, an apology, or just a recognition that we forgot something or did not do it. Communication certainly does go a long way towards boosting our sexual confidence in more ways than one.
Affirmations
Affirmations are a great way to change your thought patterns about something. Always speak affirmations in the present tense, as if it is happening now. Always make it a positive statement, and refrain from using a negative. Your mind will not hear the negative and do exactly what you are telling yourself NOT to do. Focus on what you want to do, not what you don't want to do.
Do this whenever you get out of the shower or before getting dressed. Stand naked in front of a full-length mirror. Check yourself out. Look at yourself through the eyes of your lover. Gaze in the mirror, and notice the good things about yourself. If you have beautiful eyes, focus on your eyes. If you like the colour of your hair, focus on your hair. If you like that small curve underneath your ribs when you raise your arms over your head, focus on that curve.
Start with a simple affirmation, such as "I am an awesome woman." "I am a wonderful man." "I am a fabulous person." Say, “I am a gorgeous and sexy woman.” Or how about, “I have a magnificent body.” Your mind will hear the words and react with your body. Remember that whatever you focus on is what your mind will bring to you. So do not focus on being fat, or guess what? That's right! Your mind will think that you want to be fat, and you will have a harder time getting your body to give any of that fat up.
Make a positive affirmation about yourself in the present tense, as if you are already there. Then insert your choice of words until you get one that feels right. Say it to yourself over and over again. Listen to the words as you speak them. After a while, your mind will believe exactly what you are telling it. (This works the same for negative self-talk.)
You can even write your affirmation on a sticky note and put it on your mirror. Or, if you want to get a bit fancier, write it on a piece of decorative stationery, and frame it. Put it somewhere where you will see it, and read it every day. That way, you are giving your affirmation an honoured place in your life and giving it meaning.
Saying words in a positive, present tense is feeding yourself good energy. We all need to eat and be fed. Just because you eat does not mean you were fed. Just because you are not hungry does not mean you don't want some. Eat, be fed, and be full to overflowing in all ways possible.
Try Something Different
Do you feel yourself doing the same thing repeatedly when you make love? Do you always react the same way whenever your partner gives you the signal? Why not try something different, and spice it up a little bit?
If you always make love in bed, then how about the living room this time? Sofas and chairs are excellent props to try different positions. If you are concerned about making a mess, find a blanket you don't mind getting wet, and cover the furniture with it. The kitchen or bathroom makes an excellent setting for stand-up, bend-over, and doggie-style sex. Use the counter to brace yourself against, and watch yourself in the bathroom mirror. It can get quite exciting! And if you get the floor wet, it is usually easy to clean up.
Experiment with different lighting effects instead of always doing it in the dark. Start with some candles placed strategically throughout the bedroom and other rooms. Candlelight is sexy and creates an atmosphere of allure and confidence. How about broad daylight or floodlights? A visual person will find that being able to watch can turn them on even more. The details can be quite stimulating.
Have you ever danced for someone in the privacy of your home? It can be very erotic, and it can also be very intimate. You must feel good enough to risk embarrassment at what someone else might think. This is where a good dose of sexual confidence can do wonders. There are many types of exotic dances to set the stage for an evening of delight.
Educate Yourself
If you are new to having sexual experiences or want to learn new and exciting ways to please your lover, it never hurts to ask someone about it. If you want to learn in private, then there are some excellent instructional videos on various subjects, such as * "101 Love Positions," What Women Want," and "The Art of Extended Orgasm for Men and Women.” You can view these in the comfort of your bedroom alone or share them with your partner.
Raise your sexual confidence and heighten your sex appeal. Experience sex in a new way that will enlighten your attitude about what sexy is.
In conclusion, women must embrace their confidence and sexuality and feel good in their skin. Society may impose certain beauty standards, but true beauty lies in self-love and acceptance. When women feel good about themselves, they exude confidence and positivity, which can lead to greater success in their personal and professional lives. By investing in their well-being, women can achieve a sense of fulfilment and happiness that positively impacts every aspect of their lives. So ladies, take the time to love and appreciate yourself, embrace your unique qualities, and live your best life with confidence and joy!